“What are you staring at?” groaned a twenty year old job aspirant, when fifty three year bald headed man unapologetically stared at her breast.

People, try and oftentimes associates the word “empowerment“ with women actively participating in every single field that a man is capable to pitch in. Be it handling the economy of a country, or handling the economy of his own house. But, the question remains unanswered, as when activists and feminists go up and strike to ask whether it is the only way to describe women empowerment, or it is beyond the coverage of human brain?

What is missing in the whole argument is the word “equality”. Even the longest Constitution of the world claims that –

No citizen shall, on grounds only of religion, race, caste, sex, place of birth or any of them, be subject to any disability, liability, restriction or conditions.

When the Constitution itself provides us with the idea of equality among all, then on what grounds do we differentiate the two? But, certainly, we can. For us,our society equality has now a new definition, giving “especialised equality“ to female. Deepa Karmakar, Sunny Leone, Nirmala Sitharaman, Chanda Kochhar, or any commoner, never have thought that they could be the moonlight of their respective fields, but at what cost? When they are looked upon as a “woman” working in the community where men are supposed to be the ace of cards . Be it in terms of salary the are paid, or handling the chorus of the work place, or capability to act against a man, if she is a human being with XX chromosomes, she is objectified, “Oh! A woman has joined us. “Or “Wow! Woman sprinter has won a medal. ” Or what happens the most is looked upon as an object to be “healthily flirted with“.

But, but, but, nevertheless, it is not the fault that lies with the man. God’s plan has been so, therefore, its an obvious nature for a human being with XY chromosome to get attracted towards the one who has biological been given “that one”, when in mother’s womb. Women stands guilty, here, for embarrassingly enjoying, her own objectification, and not complaining at the same time. Rabindranath Tagore has very beautifully quoted –

You are a woman, by serving you must worship, and by serving you must rule.

Which is true at some point. If a woman can worship by bestowing her services to the world, how come, she can’t rule by providing the same services to herself? The same care, the same affection, the same love, the same respect. At the end of the day, it is us, or the women community, who have to rise up for themselves, if they want “empowerment“ to be a real phenomenon, unlike the ones, who, at one flip of the coin support feminism and the idea of feminism, but at the other flip of the coin, grabs every chance to showcase that they are women, and women only seek help, and feel weak at the knees.

The idea how much you love yourself the most, is finally the path to shackle the boundaries of criticism, and at the same time empowering every individual women in a real sense. Empowerment will definitely fall on the feets of those who will understand main reason behind approaching towards it, and therefore achieving the “real women empowerment“.