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Discover your calling

One good time, I was leafing through the pages of the book ” Who will cry when you die”.A master piece book authored by ‘Robin Sharma’. His books are helping people around the world live great lives.

The very first lesson of the book struck a chord in me when I first read it. It read ‘Discover your calling’. By this time I was caught up & couldn’t resist myself going through the description of the lesson and amaze myself. And the description went like this:-

“When I was growing up, my father said something to me, I will never forget, ” Son, when you were born, you cried while the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way that when you die the world cries while you rejoice.”

We live in an age when we have forgotten what life is all about. We can easily post a photo on Instagram and Facebook and read the comments and talk to unknown people, but we have trouble walking across the street to meet a new neighbor. At present almost every country have their own missiles which can target with pinpoint accuracy, but we have trouble keeping a family meeting in our home, hanging out with friends, visiting a library and reading books. We have lost touch with our humanity. We have lost touch with our purpose. We have lost sight of the things that matters the most. In this lesson he asks us to ponder over some questions:-

He says that one of the greatest lessons he has learned In his own life is that if we don’t act on life, life has a habit of acting on us. The days slip into weeks, weeks slup into months and the months slip into years. Pretty soon it’s all over and we are left with nothing more than a heart filled with over a life half lived. “What would we do if we could live our life over again? “

Before we answer to this question in deep sigh and say that “I’d like to be the person I could have been but never was. ” We need to find greater purpose of our life and invest our life in serving the humanity. We need make a lasting contribution through our work so that we can enjoy the journey of life before it is too late. We all have special talents that are just waiting to be engaged in a worthy pursuit. We are all here for some unique purpose, some noble objective that will allow us to manifest our highest human potential while we at the same time, add value to the lives around us. Finding our calling doesn’t mean we must leave the job we have now. It simply means we need to bring more of ourselves into our work and focus on the things we do best. It means we have to stop waiting for other people to make the changes we desire and as Mahatma Gandhi noted: “Be the change that you wish to see most in your world. “ And once you do, your life will change.

Are women really empowered?

“What are you staring at?” groaned a twenty year old job aspirant, when fifty three year bald headed man unapologetically stared at her breast.

People, try and oftentimes associates the word empowerment with women actively participating in every single field that a man is capable to pitch in. Be it handling the economy of a country, or handling the economy of his own house. But, the question remains unanswered, as when activists and feminists go up and strike to ask whether it is the only way to describe women empowerment, or it is beyond the coverage of human brain?

What is missing in the whole argument is the word “equality”. Even the longest Constitution of the world claims that –

No citizen shall, on grounds only of religion, race, caste, sex, place of birth or any of them, be subject to any disability, liability, restriction or conditions.

When the Constitution itself provides us with the idea of equality among all, then on what grounds do we differentiate the two? But, certainly, we can. For us,our society equality has now a new definition, giving especialised equality to female. Deepa Karmakar, Sunny Leone, Nirmala Sitharaman, Chanda Kochhar, or any commoner, never have thought that they could be the moonlight of their respective fields, but at what cost? When they are looked upon as a “woman” working in the community where men are supposed to be the ace of cards . Be it in terms of salary the are paid, or handling the chorus of the work place, or capability to act against a man, if she is a human being with XX chromosomes, she is objectified, “Oh! A woman has joined us. “Or “Wow! Woman sprinter has won a medal. ” Or what happens the most is looked upon as an object to be healthily flirted with.

But, but, but, nevertheless, it is not the fault that lies with the man. God’s plan has been so, therefore, its an obvious nature for a human being with XY chromosome to get attracted towards the one who has biological been given “that one”, when in mother’s womb. Women stands guilty, here, for embarrassingly enjoying, her own objectification, and not complaining at the same time. Rabindranath Tagore has very beautifully quoted –

You are a woman, by serving you must worship, and by serving you must rule.

Which is true at some point. If a woman can worship by bestowing her services to the world, how come, she can’t rule by providing the same services to herself? The same care, the same affection, the same love, the same respect. At the end of the day, it is us, or the women community, who have to rise up for themselves, if they want empowerment to be a real phenomenon, unlike the ones, who, at one flip of the coin support feminism and the idea of feminism, but at the other flip of the coin, grabs every chance to showcase that they are women, and women only seek help, and feel weak at the knees.

The idea how much you love yourself the most, is finally the path to shackle the boundaries of criticism, and at the same time empowering every individual women in a real sense. Empowerment will definitely fall on the feets of those who will understand main reason behind approaching towards it, and therefore achieving thereal women empowerment.