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Marriages- a pure relation or a money deal

A great marriage isn’t something that just happens; it’s something that must be created.” – Fawn Weaver

Almost everybody, once in their lifetime, must have heard of the great saying, marriages are made in heaven. One of the purest of all relations that exist on the earth, is certainly in danger in one or the other manner.

Child marriage, have been into practice in our country for many centuries, but it is due to the tireless works of Keshab Chandra Sen, founder of Brahmo Samaj, the ill mentality which was pulping in earlier are now demolished from it’s roots. Another practice that prevailed during mid eighteenth and late nineteenth century, Dowry System, was also a big reason to worry. Since, it put great financial strain on the bride’s family, its ebolition was a must. But, today, these practices have almost come to an end, and people are leading towards more independent and maverick lives.

Although, the ill practices that were prevailing earlier in the Indian subcontinent, have now been put to an end, or we can say that, though not from the roots, above the board, it is all sorted. But, at the same time, a more ill and heart melting practice is being put into force, by most of the literate, along with illiterate people, i.e. people nowadays sale their bride and groom, in order to get them married at any cost.

It is a common tendency among Indians to get their children married once they enter their twenties, but if their marriage happens to fail, any cost is being given to the other party, in order to get them married. The reason why these things happen is the greed, as well as the pathetic excuse for their getting old.

And the only meaning driven out of these practices is that, people, or the young people, are being sold out, under the name of getting married, which is often hidden behind the pure and holy relation of marriage. Which is equal to a crime, also, it can be associated with Human Trafficking. It is simply selling of people, but the only difference here is, they know at what price, and where they are being sold to.

It is a common practice in most of the hindu families, that are supposed to be one of the literate class, but unfortunately are into such practices that lead to detoriation of the human values, and morals, along with cultural heritage. We often blame it on most of the Muslim families, or people that they are much more into practices such as marrying more than one lady, instead all are equally guilty in promoting every kind of ill practice that is prevailing in the society, and continue to be there forever.

It is a massive problem, that has settled its roots into the society, behind the name of marriage. Often, it is neglected and taken for granted, but until its ebolition is done with a force, it will take over the society forever and will detoriate the pureness of such a relation.

Simple Joys Of Life: Shoaib Ibrahim & Dipika Kakar Ibrahim

Firstly, a very happy birthday to Shoaib! May Allah bless you with good health!

Now, this article is a result of the “loads of appreciation” embodied within me since long which just kind of overflowed after I saw this video titled as Shoaika Se Sawal on YouTube.

Shoaib Ibrahim and Dipika Kakar Ibrahim need no introduction for they have been the loved faces in one of the highest rated TV shows of that time Sasural Simar Ka and are known for their notable performances in many popular daily soaps. But still, for first time readers, let me start with a brief recap. Dipika was a divorcee. Shoaib and his family whole-heartedly accepted her which should not even raise a question of surprise. I mean, it isn’t fair to judge people based on their past right? What matters is that she is such a loving soul. All of us know this well but not many of us are able to truly implement.

Dipika, despite of being brought up in a contrasting family background (as compared to Shoaib’s), she adjusted herself and became domesticated, living in a joint family, binding the whole family together and mind it, she did not do any of it compromisingly but she says she’s living her dream of being a full-time housewife. And she didn’t do anything special for it is the duty of every wedded woman to spread happiness wherever she goes. Why does it have to be too hard to nurture a bond with in-laws? It’s very simple and should be like that only, Dipika is a living testament to this. How organically she adjusted herself in an environment which could have otherwise been so non-negotiable, all because of her husband’s love and support. That’s how marriage works.

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How humble is that of her? She won Bigg Boss 12 (though I didn’t follow the season) but ofcourse have heard things about her journey growing by leaps and bounds. And also, how “some’ people found it difficult to resonate with her because she was too kind or seemed too gentle and “perfect”. Haha! Who is to blame here? None obviously, because those people are embedded in deep roots of darkness (negativity) that their eyes hurt when exposed to the light (positivity) and they yell hard in pain. They deserve compassion not outrage. Says the Greatest, Lord Krishna in Shrimad Bhagwad Gita.

And #Shoaika, the power couple knows this well. Shoaib himself hails from a very humble background and is wary of the struggling days. And what amazes me rather pacifies my heart is that how grounded these two individuals are. I haven’t been following them since forever but I can say that they have always been living a life full of genuine simplicity. They live for just those pure moments of joy and bliss with family. I relate to mammoth extents to this couple and there’s a lot to learn from them. How do they manage to strike a work-life balance almost so effortlessly. Sometimes Shoaib isn’t working but Dipika is but should that make him an object to attract trolls? Well, sadly it happens. “Biwi ki kha raha hai”.

We talk of mental health so openly or rather we have started to talk of it post Sushant’s demise. But these social media bullies are the true culprits taking potshots at someone just because they find others’ happiness too hard to digest. Shoaika talk so wonderfully about this and how they have been dealing with the constant negativity.

But amidst all of this, I’d make a confession here that they have become my “feel good” people especially after Shoaib’s sister chose to upload that video. Watch it here: Shoaika Se Sawal . They radiate so many shades of being amazing human beings. Vitality, Respect for elders, Prioritising Family, Finding happiness in simple joys of life, Keeping the ego at bay, striking a work-life balance, staying motivated and passionate to work ( Dipika reluctantly agreed to do Bigg Boss because HER family, yes, Shoaib’s family was in need) and Shoaib works out so relentlessly hard so that whenever an opportunity strikes his door, he doesn’t lose it, because of being out of shape. You see, how challenging can Entertainment industry be. They aren’t two massively successful people but what matters is that they are happy, at peace, satisfied, guided by mutual love & respect and forever grateful to the almighty and living their life with grace, dignity and LOVE. It just feels nice to see that humans like these exist witnessing all the negativity around. But I was wrong, and I am happy to be proved https://www.instagram.com/p/Bt29ygThSRs/?igshid=cuf4q8jqxzzo wrong.https://www.instagram.com/p/By0Xkxol10L/?igshid=91lcrpsiani9

Nobody’s perfect and so aren’t they but what matters is that they never give up on trying to become better human beings and “effort” is all that matters. My heart feels happy seeing people stay grounded, honest and true to themselves in the warmth & comfort of their loved ones’ embrace. Because Family is where life bgins and love never ends.