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Resilience: An important factor to succeed in life

“Kintsugi” an ancient Japanese art that means “join with gold”add flavour to the idea of resilience. Broken pieces of Pottery are glued together with” Lacquer inflected with gold powder “, so that the broken pots emerge with a richness that converts the cracks into beautiful designs.

Humans too can be taught to overcome the effects of trauma and redesign their lives to make it meaningful and friutful. Think about people you know who are successful in their personal and professional lives, we’re they born destinied for success? How do they make reaching goals that most would consider completely unfeasible seem so easy? It’s not fate, instead they all have one thing in common:resilience.The good news is we all have it in us. All we have to do is learn to develop and utilize it. Some call it histle, moxie or gaint. In the military we called it “intestinal fortitude”.It’s the ability to overcome adversity, learn from it and push to the new heights. And it’s what separated the successful from the defeated.

Psychological Resilience

It is the ability to mentally or emotionally cope with a crisis or to return to pre crisis status quickly. Resilience exist when the person uses ” Mental processes and behavior in promoting personal assets and protecting self from potential negative effects of stresses”.In simpler terms, psychological resilience exist in people who develop psychological and behavioural capabilities that allows them to remain calm during cries/ chaos and to move on from the ancient without long term negative consequences. Resilience is an individual’s capacity to cope with, adapt to, and recover from situation of adversity. This ability varies from person to perform, is influenced by biological, social and environmental factors and can be taught and embibed through right training and skill development. Students can develop tools to learn to deal with adverse life situation.

When people are faced with an adverse condition, we are told there are three ways they may approach the situation.

1.erupt with anger

2.Implode with overwhelming negative emotions, go numband become unable to react.

3.Simply become upset about the disruptive change.

Those three reactions, however are not the only responses to an adverse situation. For instance, the most resilient persons are able to isolate themselves from the immediacy of the specific adversity that has arisen and accept it is just one of the events that occur. It is neither as such good or bad they are able to stand to see how a situation could be turned to their advantage and how that can be achieved. They do not become emotionally involved with the situation, an event has occured and it needs to be dealt with.

10 ways to build resilience

1. To maintain good relationship with close family members, friends and others.

2.To avoid seeing cries or stressful events as unbearable problems.

3. To accept circumstances that can not be changed.

4.To develop realistic goals and move towards them.

5.To take decisive actions in adverse situations.

6.To look for opportunities for self discovering after a struggle with loss.

7. To develop self-confidence.

8. To keep a long perspective and consider the stressful event in a broader contest.

9. To maintain a hopeful outlook, expecting things and visualising what is wished.

10. To take care of one’s mind and body, exercising regularly, paying attention to one’s own needs and feelings.



Emotional resilience refers to one’s ability to adapt to stressful situations or crisis, it is intrinsic motivation, an inner force by which we can hold ourselves through all the downsides of life. Emotional resilience is not about winning the battle, it is the strength to power through the storm and keep the sail steady. Studies have shown that stressed people experience a flood of powerful negative emotions which may include anger, anxiety, and depression. Some people remain trapped in these negative emotions long after the stressful events that have caused them has passed. Emotionally resilient people, on the other hand, are quickly able to bounce back to their normal emotional state. We have experienced the 26/11 attacks, the Gujarat Riots, the 1999 Super Cyclone, and many other such calamities, people who could cope with these and get their life back on track have the mental strength or emotional resilience to survive in drastic circumstances. Today the world is going through an enormous change, the pandemic is multiplying at an immeasurable rate, there is unrest between the United States and Iraq and between China and India, here resilience means that people are aware of these changes, accept them without bemoaning and adjust to these challenges. Emotionally resilient people are strong enough to bounce back to their daily life and start functioning normally. People who live in flood-prone areas or where earthquakes occur frequently have that strength to quickly adapt to the situation when they are faced with challenges. It is because they have already faced the situation and are ready to overcome the destructive forces of nature a second time. Similarly, people serving in the military have encountered violence and they are trained in such a way that it wouldn’t affect their daily life. Emotional Resilience has three building blocks – these are the pillars on which we can build resilience or work on improving it. Also referred to as the three dimensions of emotional resilience, the three elements include:


What is Emotional Resilience and How to Build It? (+Training Exercises)


  • The Physical Elements

Involving physical strength, energy, good health, and vitality.

  • The Mental or Psychological Elements

Including aspects like adjustability, attention and focus, self-esteemself-confidence, emotional awareness and regulation, self-expression, thinking, and reasoning abilities.


  • The Social Elements

Including interpersonal relationships (work, partner, kids, parents, friends, community, etc), group conformity, likeability, communication, and co-operation.

The attitudes that make up emotional resilience are powerful because they enable people who subscribe to them to cope with great efficiency and effectiveness. It is not true that only emotionally resilient people can know the tricks and play of how to cope with difficult situations, it is just that they know how to apply them well to those situations.

Resilient people believe that they have the potential for control over their lives; they believe that they can influence their situation. Non-resilient people tend not to share this belief, and consequently, their stress-coping efforts don’t fair as well. People don’t work at coping when they don’t believe that coping can help.

One of the major causes of the piling up of human emotions is stress. While some form of stress is needed to motivate a person to go about his daily life, some forms of stress are harmful to the body and cause a body were and tear. This is what emotionally resilient people deal with. They apply stress buster techniques in their daily life and go on about it.