Emotional resilience refers to one’s ability to adapt to stressful situations or crisis, it is intrinsic motivation, an inner force by which we can hold ourselves through all the downsides of life. Emotional resilience is not about winning the battle, it is the strength to power through the storm and keep the sail steady. Studies have shown that stressed people experience a flood of powerful negative emotions which may include anger, anxiety, and depression. Some people remain trapped in these negative emotions long after the stressful events that have caused them has passed. Emotionally resilient people, on the other hand, are quickly able to bounce back to their normal emotional state. We have experienced the 26/11 attacks, the Gujarat Riots, the 1999 Super Cyclone, and many other such calamities, people who could cope with these and get their life back on track have the mental strength or emotional resilience to survive in drastic circumstances. Today the world is going through an enormous change, the pandemic is multiplying at an immeasurable rate, there is unrest between the United States and Iraq and between China and India, here resilience means that people are aware of these changes, accept them without bemoaning and adjust to these challenges. Emotionally resilient people are strong enough to bounce back to their daily life and start functioning normally. People who live in flood-prone areas or where earthquakes occur frequently have that strength to quickly adapt to the situation when they are faced with challenges. It is because they have already faced the situation and are ready to overcome the destructive forces of nature a second time. Similarly, people serving in the military have encountered violence and they are trained in such a way that it wouldn’t affect their daily life. Emotional Resilience has three building blocks – these are the pillars on which we can build resilience or work on improving it. Also referred to as the three dimensions of emotional resilience, the three elements include:
- The Physical Elements
Involving physical strength, energy, good health, and vitality.
- The Mental or Psychological Elements
- The Social Elements
Including interpersonal relationships (work, partner, kids, parents, friends, community, etc), group conformity, likeability, communication, and co-operation.
The attitudes that make up emotional resilience are powerful because they enable people who subscribe to them to cope with great efficiency and effectiveness. It is not true that only emotionally resilient people can know the tricks and play of how to cope with difficult situations, it is just that they know how to apply them well to those situations.
Resilient people believe that they have the potential for control over their lives; they believe that they can influence their situation. Non-resilient people tend not to share this belief, and consequently, their stress-coping efforts don’t fair as well. People don’t work at coping when they don’t believe that coping can help.
One of the major causes of the piling up of human emotions is stress. While some form of stress is needed to motivate a person to go about his daily life, some forms of stress are harmful to the body and cause a body were and tear. This is what emotionally resilient people deal with. They apply stress buster techniques in their daily life and go on about it.