“Kintsugi” an ancient Japanese art that means “join with gold”add flavour to the idea of resilience. Broken pieces of Pottery are glued together with” Lacquer inflected with gold powder “, so that the broken pots emerge with a richness that converts the cracks into beautiful designs.
Humans too can be taught to overcome the effects of trauma and redesign their lives to make it meaningful and friutful. Think about people you know who are successful in their personal and professional lives, we’re they born destinied for success? How do they make reaching goals that most would consider completely unfeasible seem so easy? It’s not fate, instead they all have one thing in common:resilience.The good news is we all have it in us. All we have to do is learn to develop and utilize it. Some call it histle, moxie or gaint. In the military we called it “intestinal fortitude”.It’s the ability to overcome adversity, learn from it and push to the new heights. And it’s what separated the successful from the defeated.
It is the ability to mentally or emotionally cope with a crisis or to return to pre crisis status quickly. Resilience exist when the person uses ” Mental processes and behavior in promoting personal assets and protecting self from potential negative effects of stresses”.In simpler terms, psychological resilience exist in people who develop psychological and behavioural capabilities that allows them to remain calm during cries/ chaos and to move on from the ancient without long term negative consequences. Resilience is an individual’s capacity to cope with, adapt to, and recover from situation of adversity. This ability varies from person to perform, is influenced by biological, social and environmental factors and can be taught and embibed through right training and skill development. Students can develop tools to learn to deal with adverse life situation.
When people are faced with an adverse condition, we are told there are three ways they may approach the situation.
1.erupt with anger
2.Implode with overwhelming negative emotions, go numband become unable to react.
3.Simply become upset about the disruptive change.
Those three reactions, however are not the only responses to an adverse situation. For instance, the most resilient persons are able to isolate themselves from the immediacy of the specific adversity that has arisen and accept it is just one of the events that occur. It is neither as such good or bad they are able to stand to see how a situation could be turned to their advantage and how that can be achieved. They do not become emotionally involved with the situation, an event has occured and it needs to be dealt with.
10 ways to build resilience
1. To maintain good relationship with close family members, friends and others.
2.To avoid seeing cries or stressful events as unbearable problems.
3. To accept circumstances that can not be changed.
4.To develop realistic goals and move towards them.
5.To take decisive actions in adverse situations.
6.To look for opportunities for self discovering after a struggle with loss.
7. To develop self-confidence.
8. To keep a long perspective and consider the stressful event in a broader contest.
9. To maintain a hopeful outlook, expecting things and visualising what is wished.
10. To take care of one’s mind and body, exercising regularly, paying attention to one’s own needs and feelings.