How to manage bullies and take actions against bullying at educational institutions…..

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. In some way or the other almost everyone of us has undergone bullying. A major question to be asked is that, Due to what reasons do people bully?

Bullying is of various kinds such as verbal, social, and physical bullying. And now another dimension is added to the list called cyber bullying. Bullying can occur during or after school hours. While most reported bullying happens in the school building, a significant percentage also happens in places like on the playground or the bus. It can also happen travelling to or from school, in the youth’s neighborhood, or on the Internet.

Verbal Bullying:- It means writing and saying mean things about someone. It may include, teasing, name calling, inappropriate sexual comments, taunting, and threatening to cause harm.

Social Bullying:- It is also known as relational bullying, it means hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. It may include, leaving someone out on purpose, telling other children not to be friends with someone, spreading rumors about someone, and embarrassing someone in public.

Physical Bullying:- It means hurting a person’s body or possessions. It may include, hitting, kicking, pinching, spitting, tripping, pushing, taking or breaking someone’s things, and making mean or rude hand gestures.

Cyber Bullying:- It is bullying using electronic means. It is also know as online bullying. It has become increasingly common, especially among teenagers, as the digital sphere has expanded and technology has advanced.

Effects of Bullying:-

Bullying can affect everyone—those who are bullied, those who bully, and those who witness bullying. Bullying is linked to many negative outcomes including impacts on mental health, substance use, and suicide. It is important to talk to kids to determine whether bullying—or something else—is a concern. Kids who are bullied can experience negative physical, school, and mental health issues. Kids who are bullied are more likely to experience:

  • Depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns, and loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy. These issues may persist into adulthood.
  • Health complaints
  • Decreased academic achievement—GPA and standardized test scores—and school participation. They are more likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school.

A very small number of bullied children might retaliate through extremely violent measures. In 12 of 15 school shooting cases in the 1990s, the shooters had a history of being bullied.

How to manage Bullies:-

  1. Tell your parents or someone you trust about the bullying. Tell your parents the entire thing, they will surely help.
  2. Report bullying and victimization incidents to the school authorities or complain committee.
  3. Talk openly about bullying and don’t be afraid to speak up.
  4. Avoid bullies wherever you are and feel good about yourself.
  5. If someone is bullying you, don’t bully them back. Always stand tall and have composure.

How to take actions against Bullying:-

  1. Establishing an Internal Complains Committee (ICC) in every institution.
  2. Speaking up against bullying.
  3. Stay with people you trust. Avoid those places with higher risks.
  4. Getting help. Remaining quit will not help. Report as soon as possible.

Hence, bullying is wrong and will not stop. It is us who needs to stand strong against bullying, because those who judge will never understand, and those who understand will never judge.